At the start of the month, my family received the worse news anybody could expect; we lost a family member. It is devastating news and it’s been overwhelming for all of us. While each of us deals with death differently, there is an underlying commonality that brings us together. Death spurs internal reflection of our authentic selves and an appreciation for the lives we are blessed to have.
Our lives are the summation of our decisions up until this very moment. They define our integrity, the way we perceive the world, perceive our selves, and perceive others. We don’t spend enough time reflecting on our journeys because “we don’t want to live in the past.” But it’s the past that often times helps determine the futures we want to lead. Think of a time in which you shared a story about somebody who passed. Each great memory we share is because of a decision we made to be there at that exact moment. Use these stories to gain clarity about the decisions you’ll make in the future.
We do this because it’s a reminder that we often take life for granted. It’s not on purpose, not because we’re too busy, or even because we forget. It’s because we’re simply living our lives and lose sight of what’s important. We all do it and it’s at times like these, when somebody we love losses what we hold dear, that brings us solemnity and reflection. These are the times that we should take stock of our lives; appreciate what we have, visualize what we want in our lives more than ever, and seize the days that we have! We only get one chance in this life and we have to maximize our time to fulfill our God-given potential.
The power of internal reflection comes with the candid realization that we are on the right or wrong paths, that we should be taking steps toward new goals, re-imagining old goals, and prioritizing certain aspects of our lives.
To die is poignantly bitter, but the idea of having to die without having lived is unbearable
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