There’s a lot to be said for sharing your dream with others. It can be a plethora of emotions and feelings for many different reasons. What keeps people from sharing them is the vulnerability and embarrassment that comes with your dreams (Marcia Wieder’s book is recommended). These emotions are difficult to overcome, without a doubt, but the continued practices from before will help you maintain your commitment to yourself to pursue your passion.
The urge to be embarrassed by your dream is common. You’ll assume it’s silly because others will think so. Their judgement of your dream should not be a factor for one simple reason: IT MATTERS TO YOU! Your life, your purpose, your passion, and dreams matter to you and that’s what matters. Nobody can take that away from you and you shouldn’t allow them to!
We’re all vulnerable in one way or another, whether we admit it or not. When it comes to pursuing our passions, vulnerability comes from within when you’re not believing in yourself. This internal obstacle is a universal limiting factor. The inner voices comes in loud and clear: “You can’t do this…..and here’s why.” Imagine for a minute that you’re standing opposite a loved one. It can be a spouse, significant other, mother, brother, father as long as they are important to you and you know they’ll support you no matter what. Close your eyes. If you reach out in front of you, what do you get? Your inner voice is quiet and you can reach out knowing the other will grab your hand. Their love and support gives you the courage and willingness to put yourself out there.
Now imagine the same situation. But this time, nobody is there to grab your hand back. It’s lonely. This is the feeling that prevails when you allow your inner voice to succeed: “You can’t do this…and that’s why.” Following your passion and staying committed is possibly the hardest thing you’ll ever do. The constant self-doubt and limitless “What if” scenarios that we conceive from our subconscious is the ultimate saboteur. The practice of not taking it personally works well for when others don’t believe in you or think you’re “misguided” in your passion, but when those criticisms come from within, they’re not easily ignored.
Ignoring your inner critic can be one approach, but without dealing with it, it’ll always come back. Each time it does, its points will be all the more convincing because dreams and passions don’t happen overnight. This time around you’ll hear “See, you’ve done all this work and what do you have to show for it?” Instead of ignoring it, deal with it on a case-by-case basis. The balance between the No You Can’t and the Yes You Can is the reality in which we live. The beauty of reality is that it’s real! There are things you can do today to ensure that tomorrow is a possibility and a new possibility after that. Each piece of daily progress will eventually equate to the longterm success of realizing your dream by believing in your passion.
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