We’ve all felt anxious before. It’s the feeling we get when we get into the unknowns of life and we’re not sure how to deal with it. Sometimes we get so caught up in the anxiety of a situation we don’t do anything in order to avoid the situation. Instead of dealing with our anxiety, we avoid it. The best way to get over the anxiety is to face the situation and learn from it. Anxiety is the manifestation of everything internal that tells you why you can’t or shouldn’t resolve the issue or deal with the situation.
Think of a time when you were anxious about something. You created a whole fantasy of the numerous outcomes that could, should, would, might possibly, never, absolutely will or will not happen. The reality is that none of those outcomes is the truth. The truth is that you are feeling what we all feel in moments of unclarity: insecurity. This is where we grow as individuals. Where we define our integrity. Where we identify our authentic selves.
When you begin to feel anxiety and insecurity creeping in, there are several things to keep in mind and some key questions to ask yourself before your assumptions take over. First identify what you are anxious about: a situation, a person, a relationship, or a decision you need to make. Anxiety will manifest itself differently in each case, but will be rooted in the level of insecurity you feel about each case. Situations are a matter of perspective, people and relationships are a matter of the responses of another, and decisions are a matter of perceived importance.
Once you have identified the source of your anxiety, ask why. Why are you anxious. The answer you find within yourself should be truthful and possibly awkward. It will be awkward because you will realize your insecurity. When you realize your insecurity, you will be able to effectively move toward getting through it.
When was the last time you felt anxious about something? How did you get though it? Let me hear from you! Leave a comment below and follow me on Twitter @alexdbarba!