We’ve all had the time when we have said “yes” to something that we didn’t want to do. This includes everything from lending a book to someone, going on a trip with somebody you didn’t want to, and even doing the random every-day tasks that drain our energy. We begin spending time and effort on resisting the things we do not want to do and it drives us to put our priorities in the back seat. Over the course of our lives, we will have systematically eliminated our dreams and our happiness because we give precedence to the little things over the things that matter to us.
This doesn’t mean we need to say “no” to everything and everybody, but it can be an essential tool in helping us prioritizing the things that are important. Start by identifying those things that you constantly say “yes” to that don’t leave a positive result in your life. Imagine for a minute about a time you said “yes” to one of these little negatives. Now imagine you said “no.” How different is the outcome? There should be a stark contrast between the results. By allowing yourself to say “no,” you can focus your energy on the yeses. The yeses you accept are toward the people, projects, and ultimately to yourself so that you can be constantly moving in a positive direction.
It’s not easy saying “no,” but like all things, practicing will make it easier and by working at it, you will begin to recognize how much freedom you will have gained. Removing the clutter in your life will allow you to focus on the issues that matter to you: your relationships, your goals, and dreams. The key to moving in that positive direction is to answer “yes” or “no” when these responses are in alignment with your integrity, authentic-self, and purpose. By staying true to yourself, there is no reason to apologize. Saying “no” is not against the person or request, it’s for you.
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