Listening to criticism can be difficult. Even under the guise of being constructive. But if we recognize the power of criticism, we can value it as feedback. Feedback is necessary for us to stay on course in the pursuit of our goals and dreams. We all like and appreciate the positive feedback we receive because it’s the reinforcement to stay the course, but negative feedback can be just as valuable in keeping us on course. Take time out from your pursuits and ask for feedback (you must be specific!). You may be surprised at how far off course you can get.
There are several key things to keep in mind when asking for and receiving feedback. Reestablish your No Exceptions Rule. This will prevent you from quitting. When you quit, you don’t allow yourself the opportunity to prove that you can accomplish your goals and dreams. You can’t prove the nay-Sayers wrong and worst of all, you feed your inner doubt which inhibits your inner integrity and cripples your authentic self.
Feedback is going to feel personal. It’s your responsibility to not let it get the best of you. Responding negatively to negative feedback is only going to fuel the inner doubter and put you on the fast track to quitting. Instead, think of it as a reminder that you are off course from what you’re ultimately trying to achieve. The source of the feedback may see something that you are missing and is trying to help you course correct. There are also bad sources of feedback. These sources offer inaccurate and not useful to your course. Take a detailed look at the source and typically you will find a person who doesn’t have your best interest at heart and the feedback is coming from their own distortions of reality.
For feedback to work, you have to be willing to open yourself up to it and not ignore it. You may be missing out on something significant.
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