What is failure? We all have a different definition for it, but there is an underlying feature to failure we all experience. That experience or emotion we feel is disappointment. Disappointment can be experienced in many ways: shame, embarrassment, letdown, sad. Each varying form of the emotion has a negative impact on you and can deter you from your goals.
Thomas Edison is known for saying “I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.” The key to recognizing failure is accepting it and learning from it. Recognizing failure starts with the feedback you ask from the people in your support network. As discussed in the previous post, failure just means you got off course and it’s time to get back on your course. As long as you keep trying your hardest, you’ll be able to effectively get back on your track to achieving your dreams.
When you realize you’re off course, it’s time to accept it. The feedback you’ve received thus far is your indicator that you’ve failed, but it’s also the stake at the cross roads you can use to get back on course. Start by thanking your accurate feedback sources for their input and time and write down their input. Writing down these suggestions will open up your mind to the experiences you came across and really display everything you have learned. Categorize your experiences into segments regarding family, relationships, clients, employees, and for yourself. This way you can begin to identify the many ways you learned to do it better the next time around.
People tend to focus on their failures and ignore, overlook, and trivialize their success. Recognizing your successes, not matter how small, is important. Remember, the small daily successes is an element of the mosaic that will become your goals and dreams. Writing down your success on a daily, weekly, and/or monthly basis is the best way to develop your inner coach and put the doubter in the back seat. If you took the time to write out your success, how many times would it outnumber your failures? Writing them down and acknowledging them is the only way to see that you succeed more than you fail. Your successes should tell you that you can’t and won’t quit. You never know what amazing new success could be added to your list.
Think of the last time you failed? What form of emotion did you manifest? Let me hear from you! Leave a comment below and follow me on Twitter @alexdbarba!