There are going to be times when we do achieve a goal or dream and it won’t be what we expected or wanted. It’s like that time when we were young and wanted to be a fireman, a police officer, truck driver, super hero, or be able to fly. When we actually get there, it’s not all it’s cracked up to be. This isn’t a failure; yet it doesn’t quite feel like an achievement. It can be a difficult pill to swallow because of the time and effort we’ve put into getting there. It’s time for reflection.
So when we feel that lackluster moment when our goal has come to fruition, remember that it’s not the end of the road. We have to be honest in that moment that what we have been doing hasn’t been working for one reason or another. We’ve paid attention to all the feedback along the way, we were passionate about our path, and we were committed, but somehow we’re not satisfied with where we are. There are two paths to take at this point: Oh well, that was a waste of time or Now what? I’ve learned something for the future. The latter approach is on the continued path of never-ending self-improvement.
Adapting to change is what keeps us growing and moving toward the next goal. Take every piece and apply it to the next big goal or dream. If we’ve paid attention, put in the time and commitment for an authentic dream that doesn’t pan out they way we visualized then maybe it’s not the biggest goal we can reach. It wasn’t a waste of time. It’s like that old saying from our second grade classroom: Aim for the moon, because even if you miss you’ll land among the stars. It’s corny, but applicable. If Neil Armstrong wasn’t satisfied with the moon, it’s because he was meant to go much further.
When we need to adapt, it’s important to remember what we just did accomplish; even if it doesn’t feel like it. There are experiences and lessons that we have learned despite the fact that our goal isn’t what we expected. One of those experiences or lessons may be that piece that we need to realign our passions and energy. At this point, we can only fail by not doing anything and giving up because it seems hopeless. Go back through your goal/dream journal. Remember what you’ve learned and write them down. Even write down your lackluster goal, you never know when it will come back full circle.
What goal or dream have you had that didn’t come as true as you had visualized? Why? What next step did you take? Let me hear from you! Leave a comment below and follow me on Twitter @alexdbarba!