I talk a lot about integrity. That’s because I believe it is what defines each and every one of us in our core. It what allows us to be our authentic selves and gives the ability to express it to the world. Along with the things that help us find that inner integrity to express our authentic selves, there are behaviors and actions that detract from finding our integrity. From not honoring, resenting others, and to maintaining double standards.
Double standards hold ourselves to different standards than those around us. Not only are we fabricating our integrity, but it’s an outright lie. One of the first principles I shared was about how we deal with other people and how we can change our perception so that it doesn’t cost ourselves more harm than it should. But those principles can only exist and be practiced if we know who we are and what we stand for. We can allow others to believe what they believe, say what they say, and do what they do because it’s about them and their own story. It’s not about us. When we begin to engage them in their conduct and impart our values upon other, we had better be certain where it is that our integrity lies.
Beyond the standards that we hold and judge other on, it speaks enough about who we want to be as individuals. But reaffirming our personal agreements that we make with for ourselves isn’t enough. It requires commitment and practice. We can tell ourselves “only just this once,” but it accumulates to the double standards that we carry for the rest of our lives. We need to take the time to asses what little exceptions we make in our lives and stop them. It may not happen over night, in a week, in a month, or a year; but it’s the small steps that make the big changes. The big change we want to see and experience is the ability to be comfortable and confident in the integrity that we have built, found, and share with the world.
What double standards do you hold? Have you changed your outlook because you weren’t holding the same standard for yourself? Let me hear from you! Leave a comment below and follow me on Twitter @alexdbarba!