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Learn from Your Parents

Mom and Pop

We don’t give enough credit to our parents for who we are as individuals and who we hope to be in the future. I am more reflective and thankful today than I ever have been about what amazing parents I have been blessed to have in my life. It’s become more prevalent to me since I moved away from Reno to Denver to follow a path I envisioned for myself for the last four years and none of it would be possible without my parents.

I’ve been going through the recruitment process with a reputable company over the last several months and I recently had a sit-down meeting with the managing partner of the office here in Denver and he asked me two of the best questions I have ever been asked. They weren’t particularly deep questions but they were simple and I’d never thought about them before: (1) What’s the most important thing you’ve learned from your mother? and (2) What’s the most important thing you’ve learned from your father?

They’ve been married for 25 years, have 3 idiot sons (I’m the middle), and a soon-to-be grandchild and this post is for them:



It’s difficult for me to put exactly what I want into words when discussing my mom (and my dad too). She’s been through a lot in the last couple of years and she’s handled it with more conviction and humility than anybody I have ever met. Behind the conviction and perseverance that I see in her, is her unwavering integrity and poise. It’s these qualities that she has bestowed upon me that I hold dear. To be a source of strength and compassion to foster an inner integrity beyond myself. It’s because of my mom that I have begun my own journey to make the world a better place by being a better person for not only myself, but for those around me.

The most important things I’ve learned from my mom is perseverance, integrity and compassion.



My dad is a big kid at heart. Some of the funniest and most memorable stories are because of him. I owe my personality to him. Through all of the hilarious “Jorge” moments, I am the man who I am today because of the father that he was when I was a child and still is as I enter a new phase of life. The amount of self-assurance and personal value that I recognize in myself is because of the qualities I saw in him. His dedication to my mom and our family has inspired me to discover a new level integrity so that I can become a loving husband and father like him.

The most important thing I’ve learned from my dad is responsibility, self-reliance and dedication.

With every great journey, there is a companion and my parents have been on this journey for over 25 years. Throughout my life I have had the example for what I want for myself. Each day that I struggle I have the best two people in the world to call for advice, guidance, and inspiration. I love my parents.

What have you learned from your parents? From you Mom? From your dad? When was the last time you spoke to your parents? Let me hear from you! Leave a comment below, subscribe to my blog and follow me on Twitter @alexdbarba!

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Posted by on February 7, 2013 in Uncategorized


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Dealing with Anxiety

We’ve all felt anxious before. It’s the feeling we get when we get into the unknowns of life and we’re not sure how to deal with it. Sometimes we get so caught up in the anxiety of a situation we don’t do anything in order to avoid the situation. Instead of dealing with our anxiety, we avoid it. The best way to get over the anxiety is to face the situation and learn from it. Anxiety is the manifestation of everything internal that tells you why you can’t or shouldn’t resolve the issue or deal with the situation.

Think of a time when you were anxious about something. You created a whole fantasy of the numerous outcomes that could, should, would, might possibly, never, absolutely will or will not happen. The reality is that none of those outcomes is the truth. The truth is that you are feeling what we all feel in moments of unclarity: insecurity. This is where we grow as individuals. Where we define our integrity. Where we identify our authentic selves.

When you begin to feel anxiety and insecurity creeping in, there are several things to keep in mind and some key questions to ask yourself before your assumptions take over. First identify what you are anxious about: a situation, a person, a relationship, or a decision you need to make. Anxiety will manifest itself differently in each case, but will be rooted in the level of insecurity you feel about each case. Situations are a matter of perspective, people and relationships are a matter of the responses of another, and decisions are a matter of perceived importance.

Once you have identified the source of your anxiety, ask why. Why are you anxious. The answer you find within yourself should be truthful and possibly awkward. It will be awkward because you will realize your insecurity. When you realize your insecurity, you will be able to effectively move toward getting through it.

When was the last time you felt anxious about something? How did you get though it? Let me hear from you! Leave a comment below and follow me on Twitter @alexdbarba!


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Posted by on August 28, 2012 in Uncategorized


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