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The Power of Internal Reflection

Self Reflection

At the start of the month, my family received the worse news anybody could expect; we lost a family member. It is devastating news and it’s been overwhelming for all of us. While each of us deals with death differently, there is an underlying commonality that brings us together. Death spurs internal reflection of our authentic selves and an appreciation for the lives we are blessed to have.

Our lives are the summation of our decisions up until this very moment. They define our integrity, the way we perceive the world, perceive our selves, and perceive others. We don’t spend enough time reflecting on our journeys because “we don’t want to live in the past.” But it’s the past that often times helps determine the futures we want to lead. Think of a time in which you shared a story about somebody who passed. Each great memory we share is because of a decision we made to be there at that exact moment. Use these stories to gain clarity about the decisions you’ll make in the future.

We do this because it’s a reminder that we often take life for granted. It’s not on purpose, not because we’re too busy, or even because we forget. It’s because we’re simply living our lives and lose sight of what’s important. We all do it and it’s at times like these, when somebody we love losses what we hold dear, that brings us solemnity and reflection. These are the times that we should take stock of our lives;  appreciate what we have, visualize what we want in our lives more than ever, and seize the days that we have! We only get one chance in this life and we have to maximize our time to fulfill our God-given potential.

The power of internal reflection comes with the candid realization that we are on the right or wrong paths, that we should be taking steps toward new goals, re-imagining old goals, and prioritizing certain aspects of our lives.

Grateful for today

To die is poignantly bitter, but the idea of having to die without having lived is unbearable

~Erich Fromm

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Posted by on March 7, 2013 in Uncategorized


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Don’t Be an Asshole

Being proud of our accomplishments and using that inner power to pursue our goals and dreams is essential to continuous self-improvement; but it doesn’t give us the right to be an asshole about it. Using the term asshole may be crass, but it’s accurate to what others will say if we don’t know where to draw the line. We alienate the people around us and spread our ill feelings about others to others. It may pay to be at the top, but not when we’re alone.

The first key to not being an asshole is to think before you speak. In everyday conversations with people, there are ample opportunities to correct, analyze, and even one-up what they said. In each instance, what we add to the conversation isn’t of real value, it just belittles the person we’re talking to. Often times we don’t even realize we’re doing it. But it’s easy to remember when somebody else did it to us. What was your response? Mine is typically “what an asshole.” The emotion that follows is what drives us to forget about that person and move on. It’s our right to do so and I support that right. But remember, others will do it to us just as quickly.

Being proud of our accomplishments means we don’t have to apologize for our successes. It also gives us greater responsibility for not becoming arrogant and egotistical. It’s about self-promotion not aggrandizement. It’s a subtle difference in the language we use, but it’s major. Think about the bonus you received at work. When you tell people “I got a bonus!” they typically have a positive, supportive response. Imagine the difference in response if you gave a specific amount: “They paid me $[insert amount]!” There are numerous other ways we can share our accomplishments, but it’s how we share that with others that matter. It should always be listed in our accomplishments/goals/dreams book.

Practicing not being an asshole also means not being around them. They can range from family and friends to co-workers and bosses. Bottom line is that they are everywhere! In our quest of never-ending self-improvement, we don’t have to put up with these types of people. I am not ashamed or afraid to just write that person out of my life because they are being an asshole. Not just once, but habitual assholes are the culprits. We all have our moments when we’ve been less than cordial; that’s the time to apologize. Dealing with asshole co-workers and bosses can be difficult, but remember there is always the option to quit or change departments. If you choose not to quit, then there needs to be as much space between you and the asshole. Don’t let him or her bring you down.

What assholes have you encountered? How did you deal with it? Let me hear from you! Leave a comment below and follow me on Twitter @alexdbarba!

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Posted by on September 28, 2012 in Uncategorized


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Visualize Your Dreams

Visualization can be one of the best methods I use to creat the success I want for myself. I visualize almost everything that I know I’m going to do in the future. The more I visualize, the closer I become to the outcome I want to achieve. Researchers have found that our brains use the same processes when we perform a task and when we visualizing ourselves performing. This process activates the creative subconscious and focuses the reticular activating system in our brains; we become more tuned in to opportunities that we hadn’t noticed before.

Visualizing your future and success can be manifested through visualizing exercises. It only takes 10-15 minutes a day to visualize the kind of life that you want to live. Be as detailed as you can when you visualize your goals: sounds, feelings, images. Leave no detail out. If you’re having difficulty visualizing, think about what zone you’re in, find some pictures to help the dream, or write out a list of things you want to be associated with your dream. The goal is to get you to think about your goals and dreams and to eventually manifest them into your subconscious.

When the manifestation begins to take root into your subconscious, a couple new experiences will occur. You’ll begin to develop an internal conflict between what your reality knows and what you’re subconscious wants. This discord strives for resolution, and with habitual visualization, you will give your subconscious permission to provide for a better reality. Striving for the better reality is what moves you closer to your goals and dreams. Your subconscious will create new solutions and ideas you’d never thought of before which in turn creates new levels of motivation to complete the small tasks to attain your goal!

 Practice visualizing what you want, what do you visualize when you begin to think about your goals? Visualize your dreams? Let me hear from you! Leave a comment below and follow me on Twitter @alexdbarba!


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Posted by on July 31, 2012 in Uncategorized


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