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Learn from Your Parents

Mom and Pop

We don’t give enough credit to our parents for who we are as individuals and who we hope to be in the future. I am more reflective and thankful today than I ever have been about what amazing parents I have been blessed to have in my life. It’s become more prevalent to me since I moved away from Reno to Denver to follow a path I envisioned for myself for the last four years and none of it would be possible without my parents.

I’ve been going through the recruitment process with a reputable company over the last several months and I recently had a sit-down meeting with the managing partner of the office here in Denver and he asked me two of the best questions I have ever been asked. They weren’t particularly deep questions but they were simple and I’d never thought about them before: (1) What’s the most important thing you’ve learned from your mother? and (2) What’s the most important thing you’ve learned from your father?

They’ve been married for 25 years, have 3 idiot sons (I’m the middle), and a soon-to-be grandchild and this post is for them:



It’s difficult for me to put exactly what I want into words when discussing my mom (and my dad too). She’s been through a lot in the last couple of years and she’s handled it with more conviction and humility than anybody I have ever met. Behind the conviction and perseverance that I see in her, is her unwavering integrity and poise. It’s these qualities that she has bestowed upon me that I hold dear. To be a source of strength and compassion to foster an inner integrity beyond myself. It’s because of my mom that I have begun my own journey to make the world a better place by being a better person for not only myself, but for those around me.

The most important things I’ve learned from my mom is perseverance, integrity and compassion.



My dad is a big kid at heart. Some of the funniest and most memorable stories are because of him. I owe my personality to him. Through all of the hilarious “Jorge” moments, I am the man who I am today because of the father that he was when I was a child and still is as I enter a new phase of life. The amount of self-assurance and personal value that I recognize in myself is because of the qualities I saw in him. His dedication to my mom and our family has inspired me to discover a new level integrity so that I can become a loving husband and father like him.

The most important thing I’ve learned from my dad is responsibility, self-reliance and dedication.

With every great journey, there is a companion and my parents have been on this journey for over 25 years. Throughout my life I have had the example for what I want for myself. Each day that I struggle I have the best two people in the world to call for advice, guidance, and inspiration. I love my parents.

What have you learned from your parents? From you Mom? From your dad? When was the last time you spoke to your parents? Let me hear from you! Leave a comment below, subscribe to my blog and follow me on Twitter @alexdbarba!

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Posted by on February 7, 2013 in Uncategorized


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The Power of Thank You

Saying Thank You is the most basic form of showing appreciation for something or somebody, but we often times take it for granted. We often blow through it so fast it’s been abridged to thanks or just thxIt may seem insignificant, but think of it as a reputation builder. People remember the people who show appreciation for others because they are the ones who care. It’s about being sincere. Think of the people in your life whether they’re family, acquaintances, co-workers, or employees. Chances are you may not know everything about them, but you’ll remember the ones who care and the ones who are ungrateful.

We’ve all seen the distinction between people who are auditory, visual, and kinesthetic in the ways that they process information. Auditory people need to hear it, visual people need to see it, and kinesthetic people need to feel it. Appreciation is experienced the same way. Visual people are more responsive to gifts: cards, letter, flowers, pictures etc. They can visually see these tokens of appreciation and know they are loved. The kinesthetic person, on the other hand, is more responsive to the physical contact of a hug or handshake. Identifying which style a person is can be the difference in making an impact on them when showing your appreciation. Think of the ways you show appreciation to people and determine if you’re being effective. The best practice is to find the balance among the styles and, of course, not being a sycophant.

Showing appreciation for others by thanking them for all that they do is a key fundamental to building relationships. They take the time to show you they care about you, so it’s your responsibility to return the favor. The positive symbiotic relationship that you create will attract others to your success circles and you’ll be invited to join others’ circles. But while you’re appreciating those around you, don’t forget to take the time to appreciate yourself. Go to your happy place, read that book you’ve been putting off because of work, sleep in late, do nothing for a day; point is: Do what make you happy. Do what you want to do. The only way we can begin to help others is by helping ourselves once in a while. A life of serving others is noble, but not when it’s to your own detriment.

I want to also thank you for reading and following my blog!

When was the last time you said thank you to somebody truly important? Let me hear from you! Leave a comment below and follow me on Twitter @alexdbarba!


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Posted by on August 25, 2012 in Uncategorized


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Create a Relationship: Be Sincere

Relationships with people are probably the hardest thing to create, build, and maintain. They can be forced, coincidental, spontaneous, and even unlikely. But no matter the nature of a relationship, there must be mutual trust and a certain likeability for a relationship to build. A fundamental lesson that I learned when meeting people and creating relationships is share first, give always. With this approach, you can begin to establish value not only for yourself, but for the relationships you create.

This principle is simple. When meeting new people, don’t have the what can you do for me mentality. It’s the surest way to end the relationship before it even had the chance. When we push others to do things we create resistance and friction. The harder the push, the fiercer the resistance becomes. It’s the straight questions with sincerity behind them that matter. Truly mean it when you ask somebody How are you?. If you don’t mean it (because it’s the means to your selfish intent), they will pick up on it and it’s over. Taking a genuine interest in another person is what will help develop honesty and trust.

Being genuine and sincere when approaching people also helps attract new people. The energy you create about yourself will have a pull effect on the people around you and causes a ripple effect to those you meet to bring in new people, new relationships, and new possibilities. The relationships you create with the people in your life will intrinsically create mutual value for you because you become the median of the people you surround yourself with. Your sincere and genuine personality will provide the positive and supportive environment you need to succeed!

Measure your level of sincerity when you meet somebody for the first time or if it’s with a friend or acquaintance. Let me hear from you! Leave a comment below and follow me on Twitter @alexdbarba!


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Posted by on August 14, 2012 in Uncategorized


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